“Loving a woman will prove to be your greatest test as a man, and probably your greatest battle…The great surprise is that she is broken. Often her brokenness will remain hidden until she becomes engaged, or married, and then wham—it all comes out. Why is that? You’d think now that she is safe, now that she knows she’s loved, she would be in a better place. But that’s just it—now that she is safe and loved, her soul can quit pushing it all down. Before she is pursued and wanted, she fears that she cannot be herself or no man will want her. Now that she is loved, her heart comes forth and with it the sorrow of her life.
It presents an opportunity for healing, so long as the young man handles things well. Do not be freaked out by it. It is not the verdict on you. (Your life and validation are found in God—hang on to that!) Learn to pray for her, tenderly when you are with her, and fiercely in your closet alone. You will need to fight the evil one for you wife, the historic demons that have assaulted her since her youth. She may need some counseling. She will certainly need some girlfriends, and learn to grow closer to God. Hang in there—it gets better. It really does.”
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